tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289472917216156585.post7327575491101888982..comments2023-10-01T04:58:58.456-07:00Comments on Parentis Incompetus: I Know You Are, But What Am I?eugie74http://www.blogger.com/profile/11485046563931829315noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289472917216156585.post-85106933519351926292010-06-28T11:06:25.967-07:002010-06-28T11:06:25.967-07:00I had a bully when I was a kid. My dad told me to...I had a bully when I was a kid. My dad told me to call him a:<br /><br />"long haired sissy"<br /><br />Try that.Cimblog (tm)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04050938758507831658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289472917216156585.post-67973996592037866282010-06-19T22:32:46.421-07:002010-06-19T22:32:46.421-07:00Do they really want to play with these boys? I thi...Do they really want to play with these boys? I think the kids are pretty good a deciding if someone is there friend or not by what they might say to them.<br />I have not had to deal with boy arguments yet, but girls- man they can be CRUEL. I have had to break up some of these verbal abuse arguments with girls at my house.<br /><br />It may be bad, but I just turned it on whatever girl was attacking my daughter first. I called them all to stand in front of me and said this:<br />"I know you may not think I can hear you a few thin walls away, but I can. I know my daughter may not be good at Gymnastics, but she is good at other things that you may not be." "Do we need to go down and list what things you are not good at?" "Can you see how this might hurt her feelings?"<br /><br />Needless to say I am not the favorite neighborhood Mom, but the mean things being said have stopped- and Cessna has learned to defend herself by saying- "That hurt me- would you like me to say something to hurt you- because I don't want too". (no joke I actually heard her say it)<br />I don't know if that is really advice, but it is something that has happened at our house.<br />Trust me I've felt like getting the Red Rider out a time or two myself- instead I just send everyone home ;0)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16290966422621222511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289472917216156585.post-91685210574297172932010-06-18T16:50:33.525-07:002010-06-18T16:50:33.525-07:00LOVE the new look of your blog too!!! I have been...LOVE the new look of your blog too!!! I have been awaiting a new post from you....:)<br /><br />I have not kids so my advice may not be the best. I think that you coordinate a fun activity for all the boys to participate in, if it is baseball they want have another impromptu baseball game or swimming or eats at the house and if while those kids are around you and they show the same behavior, say something, but not while all the other kids are present. Just let them know that an adult is around and observes their behavior and cares about how they treat their kids and other people's kids. <br /><br />That could take care of the mama bear instinct and then still teach your boys how to stand up for themselves. More than likely, the other kids don't like being treated that way either by the bullies. Your boys can take the lead with your help while they are still a little younger until they are old enough to create a fun group of kids to do things with in the neighborhood.smasekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10477262932249837445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-289472917216156585.post-79297267521639441172010-06-16T05:48:34.207-07:002010-06-16T05:48:34.207-07:00First, love the new look of th blog and especially...First, love the new look of th blog and especially the great photography..<br /><br />About the bullying - it is a big deal ..we've all read about the scary consequences that can happen..hard to know what to do..might want to hide the BB gun from you..and me if I hear them..the cursing? The best quote I have heard is that "cursing is the playgound for the uneducated mind"..I remember the scene in "On Golden Pond" when the kid cusses all the time..Henry Fonda (who plays teh grumpy-but-lovavle-old -man) says something like.."ah, that's a good word"..and uses it A LOT..the boy sees how silly it looks and does learn his lesson..<br /><br />but mayne NOT if it's really bad..or really offensive (which I really have a probelem with) Maybe just explain how somw people use it for the shock value..and that it is a lack of intelligence to be able to be clever enough to express their feelings-frustrations-thoughts in a constructive way..<br /><br />Or maybe not.Colleen - the AmAzINg Mrs. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06230264141748182037noreply@blogger.com